Monday, 12 December 2022

It's time for Coffee

 

One dusky evening I recall, I quietly watched myself as I consciously stirred the coffee in my ceramic mug. Slowly putting the spoon aside, I sipped my coffee & immediately exclaimed ‘Perrrfeccctt’! And by the time I finished my coffee,  I had a deja vu moment

Now, what’s so big about savoring a cup of coffee you might ask!  Especially when it is not brewed or filtered!!

A lot. It is about getting that froth when you pour milk atop a 45’ degree angle, not too high to spill it on the rim of the cup, but enough to form those enticing bubbles; it takes the right amount of coffee powder and just the right sugar.

Now, dear reader, you may debate, that you can always measure these, so that you get the right concoction… But I disagree. The OG chefs never measure (While it’s a good practice to do so)

Have you seen your mothers or grandmothers measuring salt, spices when making their ‘oh-so-awesome’ dishes?  No, they simply don’t. They’ll tell you as I have been told very casually - It’s how you feel at the moment

The coffee that evening tasted just the way I liked it. I sipped it slowly, meticulously, all the while being in the moment as I savored it sip by sip. Ah, bliss, I tell you  😊

It didn't end there. I then covered my legs with the soft-knitted throw on the couch and continued to relish the caffeine kick. The evening breeze was beginning to grow colder… Though it was 20 degrees, the breeze made me feel like it was a lot cooler than that!

Now as one reads through this graphic description of a coffee fix, the next logical thing you thought I would have done was watch a favorite show or read the book by the table to make it a Hallmark moment, right? And to be honest with you, I would have done that, but not this year, perhaps not anymore. This year things had pivoted. I had learnt the art of conscious living.

A very dear friend had handed me his book early this year – the one he wrote about his 10-day Vipassana Journey – the one that despite all of us pestering him – has not yet published it! So, to respect his decision- the book & him will be the ‘one we shall not name’

But I'd love to share my biggest takeaway from his vividly described account. And that is to consciously observe everything you do. It's that simple!

To remain an observer of what we are doing, how we are doing, and how these affect our way of life is the sum and distance of the book. ; And as I reveled in the company of my monkeying monk of friends, our spirits to spirituality conversations spread throughout 2022 seamlessly fit into the art of conscious living.

Now coming back to the coffee that I had described so passionately, was a result of that conscious living that I had made my mantra in 2022. Perhaps there is more to it., more to learn - As I observe, as I am aware, I learn of my muses, of my sojourns and of life as a whole.

And it began with a small step of being present in the moment - whether I'm  reading, cooking or talking! 😊

 


& I hope dear reader, as I trudge my way back into writing & as you slow down this holiday season for your well deserved breaks, may you enjoy your coffee as you pause and reflect 2022!

To the, Consciousness of the mind, Enlightenment of the soul & Happiness of the being 💓

 

Thursday, 4 February 2021

Women & Mountains

If you've have had a conversation with me in the recent past or we are connected over one of the social media platforms, you are witness as to how much I have been bragging stories of my recent trip to Uttarakhand - the exhilarating yet mesmerizing Kedarkantha Trek and the meditative & Tranquil Rishikesh.... 

But an elementary fragment of that story, that has been silently weaving at the back of my mind has been seldom shared..

After we were humbled by the massive Garhwali Himalayas, we took a stroll in the Kotagoan village, which was also our base village and our homestay accommodation.

From this uphill Himalayan village, you could witness the sun shower the Swarga Rohini & Ranglana peaks in all its hues. Little houses of wood made for ideal housing for the villagers as it would keep them warm & protected from the harsh winters. 

If you stood on the road, you could see the river Tons flowing in serenity downhill & quaint little houses with a temple dedicated to Khush - one of the two twins to Sita whose reference is in the great epic Ramayana!

As we strolled , we spoke to the villagers, understanding their way of life. Of course we were immediately in awe of their skin. The women - the complexion of their skin was as white as milk, a natural red tint on cheeks and they draped beautiful woven woolens. Their beauty could give the French a run for their money! 

And when we complimented them, they were but shy. A few moments later, probably having inferiority complex by looking at us - who were (we) dressed top to bottom in city clothes & jackets , coyly they said, ' No, you girls are beautiful'- which felt like you are prettier than us! To them we were these shiny , prim & propah city girls! Only if they knew , that we needed so much for our upkeep

As the sun set on the horizon we walked back towards our homestay- a thought lingered -  what is it with women and insecurities ? 

While we were descending from the Kedarkantha top, we met so many young women, who with tensed temples asked, 'Hey, would we be able to do the trek ? Go all the way to the top ? Being fat won't be an issue, right ?

That minute I wanted to hug them tight! How could they know? For this was my thought trail at the start of the trek! With content & super motivation, we exclaimed 'yes, you of course can!'

Why do we doubt ourselves so much ? Why are we always insecure about that one thing that's not right- be it our teeth, nails, nose, body shape, endurance , fertility... you know the list could go on..

We tend to immediately jump into a pool of self loathing. A constant need of validation always lingers around us. Maybe women were bred that way ? Or they adapted to their surroundings with time, like good docile homo sapiens? 

All I understood this trip is that the higher you climb the mountain, the insecurities seem far below in the valley....

As my fellow trekkers would say ' baby steps ' ; for the lesser weight you carry on your back, the more mobile you are

Ah! Women and Mountains are connected in more ways than we thought, right ? 😉




Saturday, 16 November 2019

Instant Noodles


‘But yours is the generation of instant gratification & Instant noodles. You won’t appreciate the process..’ remarked a well wisher once while he tried to put some sense into me as to why I needed to enjoy the process, let things simmer and take it its own turn.

Irony being ,  this conversation was on the popular ‘instant messaging’ service.

But somehow that remark stung like a bee. It never left my conscious mind and I began thinking- Are we really all about instant?

I grew up in the 90’s , when stuff had started getting easier. From then to 2019, this generation of mine almost adapted like amoeba did from single cellular to multi cellular.

Instant food, instant dating, instant transport, instant loans, bank accounts & what not – you name it and there is every brand in the market trying to get things easier, convenient & quickly to you.

The bank came home, your relationships went online, you don’t plough the dough for roti’s any more because hey you have the ready to eat packets available, lest you have food delivery apps for any time cravings.  

And while I could not agree more with him, I also realized if things didn’t happen right away for me, be it a task or chores, I went restless.  When things did at the first attempt, I was jumping in excitement & gloating, when they didn’t I was panicking & was nervous.

Maybe this was because I was so used to having things immediately, at the snap of my fingers. May be it was a flaw only existing with me, or it was omnipresent in the scheme of things- we were but all about instant.
That made me realize I had to be in the process, whether it was work or relationships. I had to let them simmer. When the curve went upwards- smile, do my happy dance & when it did go downwards, may be let down that drop of tear..  

& then everything about marathon running made sense. If you intent to run long, you set the pace accordingly.

As winter sets in, I hope you enjoy that hot cup of your favourite beverage & let consistency batch in with those instant arrangements.

Cheers!

Sunday, 24 February 2019

Positively Infectious

With absolutely no idea what awaited further, I had decided to step away from my comfort zone and move to another city. For an Indian girl in her twenties that meant no family, friends,being on your own and so on..; and while I was unraveling the logistics, culture and people in the new city, there was this girl who welcomed me with a smile so wide that reached her eyes.

She would say 'My pleasure'  everytime I expressed  'thank you' for helping me understand the who's who at workplace, and one would know she genuinely said so, rather than for the sake of it  Two years down the line , our courtesy talks progressed into a wonderful bond of friendship.


Nisha , a girl brimming with enthusiasm with an energy so positive like one would derive seeing golden daffodils in spring dancing happily as the sun expanded its rays across the horizon. It would infect every person she met.

Today, this woman is a gorgeous mother of a cute little two-month old boy who she named 'Khush' meaning happy, who is as playful as her.With all the pandemonium of a new born in the house she is still at her sporty best rejoicing the new phase in her life

Oh boy! Even during her pregnancy she would hop from one place to other, working night shifts, organizing events, volunteering sports activities  and so much, it made us all wonder how she did it. I still remember both of us contemplating endless crazy things like a game of thrones theme for her baby 😅

As our talks matured, I knew there were troubles she had, problems she faced, things she was angry at, just like a normal human being. But this Sindhi girl, taught me to take life as it comes, without regrets, and most importantly to not be guilty for your flaws. She does not mask it, rather wears it as as a shield.

This new mommy's positively infectious energy has me smitten everytime I meet her and leaves me smiling like a happy kid at the end

Nisha- Thank you for embracing me with so much of happiness and love. Your energy has me infected and keeps me going..

Do you have such friends that give you similar feeling ? Let me know in the comments

Cheers,
Miss Explorer


Sunday, 27 January 2019

This is too Risky



‘But perhaps you could teach part time, till your venture stabilizes’, stated a contemplating me.

‘No Gargi’ , he said. “If I do that, I won’t give my 100% and here I am willing to take the risk, to give it all’’, said a confident Siddarth

This man had his aspiration of a career in sports management way early in his teens. My first memory of Siddarth is that being of - the only guy who questioned me when a particular debate competition forum was open for audience. 
That Q&A had turned into a  personal debate then and had to be mediated. Funny, our professors picked both of us to represent the college 5 years later at the University Youth Festival and that’s how we knew each other better and turned good friends and continue to be till date.

In line with his aspiration, he started a football league in the suburbs of the city and it was received and appreciated really well. The German Consulate awarded him with a scholarship and he later went onto study Sports Management in Leipzig, Germany. He came back to India and started his own sports academy – Sporko , which today has over 200 students and continues to work on various projects. A good orator, a risk-taker, creative and fun, his dedication takes him to different cities, working endless days to achieve his goals

I have always contemplated entrepreneurship and its challenges, especially in fields such as sports. They come in all varieties and with some good risk potential. My approach to career being a mainstream one and more of a 9-5 , comprehending challenges on this front becomes confusing for me personally.


Siddarth has been pushing me to watch sports especially football. He has taken the efforts to explain me a football match despite knowing my aptitude in that field, so that I know what he does there and what it takes, and  also that I develop an interest in it. 

While your friends are determined and hardworking to achieve their goal, their aspiration, I personally have come to a conclusion, that a little support from our end , would make them smile, perhaps motivate them to keep going.

How do you do that? Don’t succumb to mediocrity by telling them , ‘this is too risky’ ‘ what if it does not work’ ' are you sure you want to do that?' 
Attend their events, functions, buy their products/services, share feedback. Little things matter; it may not evade their challenges completely, but will definitely make them feel better , perhaps help in getting a good night sleep knowing their work is really appreciated and supported

Here is to my debate partner – ‘May you rise and shine and be the change' - though our debates will still continue 

To all the artists, start-up enthusiast, entrepreneurs –We respect you, love you and truly admire your work and undying spirit despite all odds- Thank you for making the world, a more creative place.

Cheers!
Miss Explorer

Sunday, 16 December 2018

The connect


A guy once commented, “You are so talkative !’’
Although I displayed the niceties when texting back with a smiley- because aren’t those emoji a saviour for conversations like this!.. I had a grumpy face saying ‘how dare he’ for the next whole minute.

I wondered why my father laughed when he said, 'Gargi you started talking at tender age of 8 months’ and then my mother would add, ‘ and hasn’t stopped talking yet'. My non-stop banter is something, I guess the only thing they miss when I am not home..and believe are in much peace

Am I apologetic for talking? Hell, no! I stopped saying sorry for what I am , early this year..

Though I appear to be an extrovert, my friend circle is very limited. Perhaps they are the only people who like me despite all my habits- even if it is as bad as being a shopaholic

Anuja and Charu ,two of my precious gems in this close circle, have been my friends since college. When the world was busy dating or attending lectures- we were eating at different food outlets, heading all the extra-curricular activities in college.. Our friendship only developed since that day.. We fought, we cried, we laughed, we danced and we did all the drama that happens when three strong minds come together


If you think we meet daily, talk daily and hang out often, that’s incorrect. That's so rare and which is why it is so precious..  You really don't need the social media to connect to your dear ones... Its but a natural process..
These days are conversations are so much about adulting and being all responsible, we often laugh and wonder how the past few years have changed us,.

While so many of our ‘planned meetings’ have got cancelled, majorly because I overslept,  I think we’ve been with each other through days, where just talking to someone was of paramount importance!
I don’t think any of us were or  rather still are truly capable of taking the right and effective decisions or directions, yet, the benefit of having each other was that we could decode our own problems while just casually narrating our story..All it help was having that one person at other end who was not going to judge you..

Funny isn't it? All we need is some calm, to shoo away that hysteria, the root cause of all problems.Now whether that calmness is derived through internal thought process or via a comforting shoulder, doesn't matter.  The solution that seemed hazy in the beginning appears like the bright sun rays on a foggy winter morning! 

All you need is to believe in you and have people who equally believe in you...

Cheers to both these women for being the sun rays in my winter fog, for  helping me decode me! 

P.S : Lets plan  &  meet ( pun intended).. Lots of love



Saturday, 8 December 2018

Be You


We’ve all had our “Netflix moment”.

That one show, you watched on a lazy Saturday evening, wearing the most comfortable clothes, tucked in your favourite blanket,infinitely browsing, stopping at the description, deciddng to watch it and then the “Dejavu”... you paused and you thought – That very moment you related to the show.

On one such lazy Saturday (Most Saturday’s being lazy, though) I stumbled upon this movie called “Sierra Burgess is a Loser”. The movie suggestion would pop up every time I logged in, but somehow I wondered if it was an affirmative-negative title or not. One fine Saturday, I decided to hit the play button and there was my moment!

You know that kid in high school, who sat in one corner , with chubby cheeks as if they had mozzarella cheese stuffing filled into them, the one who had his/her head buried in books.The teachers adored them; they were in literature clubs, debate competitions, competitive exams and obviously scored good grades..
I was one of those idiots...

While I fit the criteria of a “good student” – something for which my younger sister still blames me, since she always got the ‘why don’t you be like her’ from literally everyone around her; high school, you know,  is not just about being the good student, it’s tough!

You are in your early teenage and as the acnes and pimples break out on your face, so do your classmates. There are these figure perfects, who are into dance, aerobics ,sports and all the famous entertaining activities. The entire school is die-hard fan of these famous kids.
Then there are these studious kids, who are only bothered about two things- books and food.
Sierra Burgess got me back in time and I wished I could tell the 14 year old me that 'gargi you did look pretty'

The movie starts with this chubby cheek intelligent girl who has a super low self esteem about her looks. The famous girl in the school gives Sierra’s numbers instead of hers when the soccer game lead asks her out in a cafe. In a modern day ‘know each other by texting’ situation;  its’ only a couple of text messages later does Sierra realize that the cell phone numbers were swapped and the cute soccer game lead who she already likes by now, so far thought that he has been chatting with the famous girl!

The movie now revolves around  their lives, when both girls strike a deal, and teach each other for some personal benefit instead of envying. In the end, their lie is caught; the soccer lead learns the truth & yet picks up Sierra for the homecoming. 

I had my Netflix moment at this point. I went back to my school days and saw myself and related so very much to Sierra.. I was much like her.  I wished, I could tell the teenager me , that it didn’t matter; that she was beautiful irrespective of the way she looked or what she did. Also, took a note to myself that the right one will be with you no matter what!

For all the cryptic excuses I gave myself, it took me some good years to get it out of my overthinking head that I was never going to be the beautiful one. Now, that I dot the changing points, I realize, we always want to be someone else , perhaps thinking that , being them could get us that one thing we so desired.

I am not spilling the entire movie plot, since I believe watching it will be much a greater experience but I write because I believe we all have been there.

I have been both- fat-to-fit and fit-to-fat and while I continue to make decent efforts to becoming a healthier person, I do not apologize for how I look or what I am or what I will be.

Having those thoughts in your teenage is but natural but don't carry that drama years down the line.

You are beautiful the way you are and not because you are fat or skinny, fair or dark, short or long! It doesn't matter what the attributes are, what does is how you customize them to be yours.

I didn’t do it then, but I do now.... find ways to make me better with each passing day, picking up the little pieces for the good and loving every part of me.. adding more flavors to the mozzarella cheese perhaps 😊

For its important, to keep falling in love with yourself every SINGLE day!







Saturday, 28 April 2018

Salsa Dip - 365 days away from home

A cool breeze swayed by while the sun was scattering the blue light with hues of orange and red. I was standing by the window,sipping tea from my favorite cup. Thoughts rushed diagonally across my head and a smile lit my face.

I realized I had been away from my home for a year now. 365 days of being responsible for self, dropping my mad hats, tip-toeing to the music that echoed in the four walls of this house and wrapping myself in the basket of my thoughts.

 I had the plus points of staying alone, credited into my account in the early months. The first few months were spent in knowing the what,when and how about the new place, people and surroundings. I had to set up my own little space and  I was so enthusiastic about it - I was buying groceries, taking kitchen tips from mom, having my laundry in place- there was so much to do... I was so excited about being a task master

Today- bills, groceries, laundry ; are  all by default in the to-do list. And, lets just say I am not complaining 😉

But Staying away, in a different city, far from your loved ones, is definitely not an easy task.  Solitude was a fancy thing until it became a reality.

When days were tough, I did miss the comforting hugs of my folks. Phone calls and video calls help you calm down to some extent but that is still no substitute. When I felt sick , is when I missed home the most. Let's not even get to my PMS days where I am my crankiest best!😅

The universe did take care of me though..Over a period of time my dishes were perfected ( Read : I didn't burn anything ) and most things thought of , fell in place. Busy work took care of the empty devil mind.

Till day, every time I have a flight to board, my colleagues make sure they push me out on time; for they know; one- I will rush and two - I've already missed it once and ran helter skelter for the next one.
AND about flights- They sense your punctuality- they are delayed when you are on time and always have to be on time when you are delayed.

I look back at the year gone by like a movie on a fast forward track and realize so much of me has transformed.. but every second of this ride has been sheer fun!
I keep my fingers crossed for the next one...anticipating more adventures..

To all who are away from home right now -  Because this part of our life is just like a lip smacking salsa dip- sweet, tangy and spicy - yet desirable 

Cheers to staying mentally strong!


Saturday, 24 June 2017

Eat. Pray. Love

I remember sipping piping hot tea from a paper cup on a late afternoon in a lawn at the Bharatpur Bird Sanctuary.
The light from sun was starting to get dimmer, and the cold winds were taking the main chair. The babblers were dancing around, the camera gears resting on the granite benches and we were busy making a list of sightings of the day!
Topics followed trail and we found ourselves discussing solo travelling. I exclaimed, ' I want to travel solo too, but wouldn't that be boring? 

That is when the three people who I was taking this trip with, calmed the sprinting me down and gave me some piece of mind. Mario, Vishu and Sameer have always been my travel inspirations, for all three of them come with a different variety of tales and enthusiasm, that one looks forward to the trip to!
They said, 'Gargi, If you cannot entertain yourself, how do you expect others to enjoy your company?'

That sentence, those words struck me like a bolt of lightning! This was the winter of 2015 and I have been wondering since then....

So many articles, so many posts did I read on solitude, on loving oneself, but somehow , something did not connect. My brain could not process the thought of being alone. It always was a red flag and sometimes this insecurity took over my entire though process. I was a metropolitan city kid, growing up in crowds and always surrounded by people and blessed enough to be pampered and looked after!

When I moved out , I stuck to netflix in my initial days when work wasn't occupying my mind and time. I did not want the fear dragon guarding me. The pampering hadn't stopped although, it just shaped into love over really long phone calls.
So much so, that even when I was house hunting , my friend Charu knew every detail of what was happening! She even jokes, that I am virtually always with her. Yes, you could call me the always-connected-to person!

One sunday night, I happen to watch the movie - Eat,Pray and Love. A movie I think I would watch a 100 times over. I connected to Liz instantly when she felt she was not into her relation anymore.She hyperventilated, just like I do.

But what mended a troubled her was beyond just chocolates and ice cream and a girlfriend counselling session. She ate what she loved even though it gave her a muffin top( This one's the best takeaway from the movie), she found meditation when she made peace with her past , deciding to send love and light every time she thought about it and she found love when she lived it!

One of the perks of staying alone at this age is that your brain takes precedence. It knows it cannot allow you to shatter away into pieces and holds you upright in an invisible blanket. Surprisingly a melodramatic me stayed pretty strong during the entire transition, I wonder if I was growing cold. They said it might dawn upon me once I settle down. Who knew I had set foot to meet a different me...

Gandhinagar has beautiful roads and pleasant evenings. So when I was done with my to-do's for a Saturday, I decided to take a long stride down the road.

My ear drums heard the peacock howling, instead of my playlist. The birds were chirping melodious rhythms as they headed back to their nest. As I walked ahead, a lapwing flew diagonally close to the ground level and landed swiftly. The sun was blasting hues of orange and yellow in the background as it bid goodbye for the day. He soon disappeared and the night walked in. Instead of shoe shopping, I was grocery shopping! Oh Boy, what merriment it brought when I fixed myself a sandwich with cheese and nuggets and mayonnaise. Not the healthiest, but definitely the happiest.
I heard my favorite song that night and had one of the rarest peaceful sleep of all time

This is exactly when I learnt to keep my phone away, and entertain myself. It was no longer boring and I didn't just need sitcoms to do away with time. Primarily, I didn't have to do away with time. It is when the words - Eat, Pray and Love made so much sense.

Loving yourself is just not a day's job or vacation induced thing. You have to grow with you, learn with you and accept you. Solitude is defined by you. Who knew I would be dancing cheerfully and having my first prize kinda walk just because I learnt to organize the kitchen!

Maybe I am starting to love my own company..



I do certainly miss the pampering, the constant go-to people, but just like Elizabeth, every time I think of it I send them love and light! For loved ones miles apart and lands beyond....

Attraversiamo -Lets cross over

P.S: Until I find my word, lets stick to this one

Sunday, 21 May 2017

The Twenty Something Saga

Miss Explorer.

I chose this pseudo name for myself because I thought​ it best suited my ventures- travelling, writing, clicking and items that kept adding in my bucket list. However,this summer I realized,that I perhaps am, miles away from  that title

I shifted to a new city last month . I sought a nice ventilated rented apartment, and moved in there post my stay at the company quarters. Out of pampering and pre-conceived notions of my 'excellent' domestic skills ,my mother boarded the next available train post the night I moved in, and helped me set up my new apartment.

 This 58 year old lady who everyone had been titling as a dependent old woman, ventured out on her own while I was at work and explored the city more  than I did in the past one month! When I hopped-skipped-jumped to tell her about the local market areas where we could by the home necessities, I fell flat on my face. She is thus, the  original 'Miss Explorer'

My decision of moving into a Tier 2 city from a buzzing metropolitan Mumbai had sent shock waves amongst my friends and relatives. While some were excited, some wondered how a pampered child like me could stay all on her own. However,  my parents supported my decision. I was going by my intuition of exploring a new world without a second thought of what lay ahead. But unlike me, my parents,  my mentor, knew what I chose to step in and actively prepared me for it. They knew my  pampering era was over and it was time to groom myself to be an adult,the kind I always sketched in my mind. So I took the big jump and shifted my base from one capital city to another.

Turns out I was not the only one in my early twenties jumping into something like this. My peers had been banking on opportunities much before I even anticipated the movement; even if it demanded them to stay away from home,even if it meant, to leave the comfort of Mumbai! I realized that our twenty-something gang is now not only exploring cities, countries across continents but  also has been venturing towards cities and villages in our own country.

I fondly  remember the hilarious conversations over a facebook chat with a friend, who's currently studying in U.S .We were contemplating whether I should buy a quilt or plain pull over during the Mega online sale.
We laughed our hearts out when we realized how our shopping trends had changed. I was then anticipating the list of items I would need to survive.

However I have been comforted by the plethora of experience I hear from friends who've moved away from Mumbai for work or education and now live in cities like Pune, Gandhinagar, Chennai, Kolkata and countries like U.S and Australia. We seem to be on the same boat. Trying the tested methods and amalgamating them with the new ones.

I believe that our twenty something saga is turning more of an exploring 'gatha' ( meaning, tales) today . For we belong to the generation who have perhaps learned to stride with globalization keeping our roots intact. We do appreciate authentic Italian pizza's but long for home made 'dal-chawal', we grove to jazz and pop, but our hearts find solitude in ghazals; we do speak flawless english, but are now yearning to master our native tongue and sanskrit.

A lot of my peers share my away-from home story. Yes,I do miss Mumbai wholeheartedly, but I am beginning to look forward to the interesting learnings that come by, for each city has a story to tell, a new lesson to teach ; and isn't home where the heart is ? 😉

I am just on page 1 of my new story ,where have you reached?

To all the wanderers... Cheers 🙌

Sunday, 26 February 2017

Chadar Trek – Of Ice and Solitude

It was a pitch dark night. I pulled the curtains aside and took a quick glance through the transparent square frame window. All black, no white. 

‘Thank God’ I murmured. The heavy snowfall in Leh since the last three days had us stranded in the city. No flights took off due to poor visibility and our stay had got extended.

I sat on the cushioned wooden chair in my room with the diary on my lap. The heater upfront was doing little justice to keep my palms and fingers warm, which were now out of the comfort of the woollen gloves.  I had not written a single word, not a scribble. I sipped some water from the thermo flask, staring at the snow that lay on the ground outside. I tried rewinding the series of event that had led me here...

When Parag, our group leader had posted about Chadar trek somewhere in the month of July, an impulsive me jumped to feet and declared to world, ‘I am going!’

Reason?  Simple. The trip was to begin on the eve of my birthday.

As months drew closer I realized that just being enthusiastic would do no good and that I must prepare myself. I took control of my health and made my mind- cometh hail or storm, I am doing this.  With all bags packed we were set to fly to the land of Lamas.

We landed in Leh on January 20th.  The flight from Delhi to Leh had our eyes treated to picturesque Lahaul Spiti range. In anticipation, as we stepped our feet on the air stair at Leh airport, a chilly breeze flew past us. It was 11am and the sunshine glorified the sand mountains. The deep blue sky welcomed us to its land.

We checked out of the Leh airport and boarded the cabs that took us to our hotel- Mahey Retreat.  The weather demanded us to wear our hand gloves and mufflers to heat up the now numbed hands. After what seemed like a 15 minute drive we checked into our hotel.

The rest of the day was spent shopping the required gear in buzzing Leh market and relaxing in the comfort of the hotel. It was my birthday and I was celebrating it with 12 other wandering souls and the mighty Himalayan snow desert. Picture Perfect gift!

Acclimatizing Day 2
We stepped out to explore places around Leh visiting Thiksey Monastery, Shei Palace and Hall of Fame. Since January is a non tourist season, there were not many wanderers.  One could absorb in the serenity at Thiksey as the hands turned the prayer wheels.
Shey Palace



Prayer Flags at Thiksey



Maiterya Buddha





The 23 ft tall statue of the future Buddha- Maitreya was alluring. As his holiness Dalai Lama quoted, you could look and look and still feel that you've not seen enough of it. The structure of the Shei Palace left me thinking what the palace would be in its full glory. As we drove across from one place to another our eyes were treated to colorful and intricately crafted infrastructures.  For us behind the lenses, they were a perfect concoction of colours, for our three brilliant architects – Brijesh, Mugdha and Ruta – a platter full of delight.






Trek Begins

  Rucksacks, gumboots and walking sticks were now brought out. After a scrumptious breakfast at the hotel,  we wore our down jackets and alighted the tempo-traveller which drove us to a little ahead of chilling village. En route we witnessed the confluence of the River Zanskar and River Indus, both of which were now frozen. The beauty of this confluence cannot be described, it but has to be witnessed by the naked eye and absorbed by the eternal soul- to know why two dots connect!

Courtesy : Mario Mascarenhas

A vast landscape of mountains greeted us as we stepped down. We let our behinds rest and the shutters do their work as we waited for our guides and potters to arrive. Once they did, we descended a tiny rocky patch. What our eyes saw next? The mighty Zanskar.  It was time to explore the raw



The left portion of the river was seamlessly making its way south, while the right was frozen into thick sheet of ice. I wanted to act like the penguin from the movie- happy feet alive! I stepped my feet slowly onto the ice bed and walked with the help of my walking stick. Yayy! – I didn’t fall. 

First steps on Chadar

Cherishing the first feel of ice we marched to our first camp – Shingra Yogma. As the sun bid good bye to the mountains the stars filled the sky-  If I could, I would have slept on the rocks near the river bed and star gaze all night, but the minus temperatures refrained me from doing so.

I perhaps came to a conclusion that there is a reason we named it nature’s call. It the middle of the night, after strenuous efforts of getting out of the sleeping bag, finding the right gum boot, when we did respond to it, the dark beauty cast a spell. Dimly lit with twinkling stars, sometimes hidden by clouds of snow. It was surreal.

Day 2 Trek- Camp two- Tsomo - That ‘Yayy, I didn’t fall’ was jinxed.

If there is one thing I could learn from the local’s who served us hot meals at breakfast, lunch and dinner was how they could manage to cook a delicious meal in a short span of time. Once we were done feasting on the scrambled eggs and bread, we stepped our gum boot feet on the thick sheets of ice.


Since the Chadar ahead was bleak we had to ascend a rock patch. As I stopped to catch my breath, I watched in bewilderment as the potters took down several kilograms of weight effortlessly.

Tip- Carry the basic required stuff only. It is but a futile effort to have our luxuries loaded on their back.

Once descended, a fascinating gorge welcomed us. The wind eroded valleys seem to build a wall protective and nurturing to protect the pristine Zanskar. The ice shone brightly as the sun travelled across. All the hours of physical training keyed in, all mental assurances of ‘you can do it’ since months had led us to this exuberance and this was just the beginning.

I lost the number of counts I fell and slid on the ice bed. Venu uncle, who accompanied me at patches during the trek, finally exclaimed,’ I can now only see you falling’. I laughed at the metaphor. I realized all though falling was essential; too much of it could break your bones. On Chadar, you lose focus and you fall, just like life.

On our way to Tsomo caves, Parag asked all of us to wait back as he narrated a story. In front of us  was the only waterfall on the river Zanskar that did not freeze in the chilly winter.  The folklore has it that once when Nerak went dry, a holy man went up to Kailash where his wish would be fulfilled. He was given a box with the only condition being that he wouldn’t keep it down until he reached his village, unfortunately series of event led to him keeping the box on the ground. The box opened and two gold fishes flew from it. They entered into the cavity of the hill and water started gushing out. In anxiety the man, threw his shoe in one hole and the water stopped flowing


Surprisingly, the hole in the left is dry and the one on right has water flowing endlessly into the river Zanskar even in this Chilly temperature.

Striding across Chadar we witnessed her various forms. At some places the entire breadth of the river was frozen. When we reached our 2nd Camp- Tsomo, I could see the entire river disappearing into the ice rock.

Remembers those by-the-lake-side camps, textbook drawings we fantasized of? Camp Tsomo was just like it. In fact, a better version.


Camp atTsomo
Day 3 Snowfall

.As we sipped our Kahwa (Kashmiri tea) in the misty morning, I felt something touch my nose. It was tingling, as I turned my back towards the valley, I saw a white curtain filling gap between two hills. The sky was showering tiny feather like elements. Amazed, I asked,’what is it?’

‘Snow’ they exclaimed. My cheekbones strained and I was instantaneously euphoric. As we set foot on the Chadar again towards our third camp ‘Tibb Caves’, the snowfall intensified. Nature was now covering the bare valley with its soft white blanket.  I wanted to pinch myself to make sure I wasn’t dreaming. But given the layer of clothing, I bent down, lay my head on the walking pole and witnessed the magic of the wind, river and the snow. The currents here were stronger so the right side of the river was flowing. Snowflakes kissed as I Swayed my head in the direction of the wind.  I closed my eyes to absorb in the moment. Utterly fascinating and gracefully soul pleasing. The valley had blessed us. Was I in the Disney movie, frozen? Could be.



Reaching Tibb we cheered to our first snowfall experience. Our tents were set on the rocks that rose a few feet above the river bed which was now snow drenched.

Tibb caves
Courtesy : Mario Mascarenhas


Given the intensity of snowfall and the route ahead, a decision was made to turn back instead of marching ahead to Nerak-our final destination of the trek.

Sigh! I was going to miss the world famous frozen waterfall. When Vishakha said that the journey was more important than the destination and that the trek so far had been blissful, the exploring me took a note. Later that night, in our tent, we laughed, we debated and we spoke endlessly on topics. Insights from art, finance, music, architecture filled the tent. We then moved to scariest storytelling and I quietly escaped under my sleeping bag.

Way back
The snow fall hadn’t stopped.  Right from our gum boots to the hills everything was covered in a blanket of snow. As I stepped out to for the morning rituals, I struggled to clear the snow out my gum boot. It was chilly and snowy.



So much of snow and no fight? The notorious of the gentle personalities had stepped out, as we threw heaps of snow at each other. All of us were bathed in snow. Pure unadulterated happiness!

It was January 26th. We stood in attention for the national anthem as we waived the flag. The colours of orange, white and green filled the atmosphere with pride. I realized the efforts of our soldiers at Siachen and in the Himalayan border range and was humbled.

Our guides decided to camp at Hotong the next day, which was barely a few kilometres away from Tibb. Another, quaint lakeside camp. Slurping the maggi and sipping Kahwa in the dense snowfall was an absolutely different experience for a foodie who loves the Mumbai rains and enjoys it with hot tea and Bhajiya. It was now snowing heavily. It could match the density of the rains in Sahyadri.

On the way to Hotong
We headed back to our first camp on the January 27th. The chadar had changed its formations drastically and we could barely recognize the Tsomo camp. The continuous snowfall had changed the geography of the river and the hills and made our walk a little easy

We reached Bakula Baav (Bakula Cave) where a Rinpoche once meditated. It was considered to be a holy place. Here our guide and the porter team tied a twig from the coniferous tree of Juniper or the holy plant of shukpa.
‘Ki Ki so so Lhargyalo’, they recited in unison. ‘Victory to the Gods’ it meant as they wished for our good health and we smiled in humility.

Striding in the snow had our stomachs growling.Our team served us lunch at Shingra Korma- the same place where we had lunch on the 2nd day of the trek. I reminisced this as place of sturdy rocks by the river bed; it now had more than 3ft snow covered.

As we reached our first camp- Shingra Yogma at 5 pm in the evening realization dawned upon us. It was our last day on the pristine chadar.

Every person in the tent had an altogether different perspective of the tent.  Welcomed by bright sunlight we walked by the river, with hills and valleys crafted by the ever flowing breeze. Slipping and sliding we saw the ice opaque and transparent. The deadly temperature which made survival a task for any living being , the ravens had mastered the code who soared high above the sky. Every element in the nature was modest and still stood out its individual characteristic.

That evening, I went uphill and sat gazing. I saw wide stretch of the gorge, comforting and welcoming every snowflake that fell. The vast fuzzy sky that overlooked the valley seemed to be meditating in its wildest form. Nature wasn’t calm, but in its extremist form was stunning. She hugged me with all delight!

On the day of departure, the snow genie had disappeared and sunlight paved its way. Here is a little video of the morning view.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_-8Bc0rNwtE&feature=youtu.be



While we were all set to leave, an impromptu Brijesh decided to take a plunge in the river. Sameer and Pranjal followed. The men swam heroically all the way wide.
When Ruta convinced Brijesh, telling him it was once in a lifetime, I succumbed to temptations. Without taking the effort to go back to the tent and change, I took off the layers, placed it on my rucksack and took a plunge in the river!

STRIKINGLY cold mineral water. Every inch of my body shivered. Once out my, feet fell numb. I waited a minute before I could go back to the tent and change. Parag and Ruta, now tempted, were getting ready for the world’s most natural spa.

After the rejjuvenating bath we set our foot back on the road. Post ascending the same patch we climbed on Day 1, our never ending walk began. A landslide on the road made us walk an extended 15 kilometre, which we had covered in the bus. Warm at first and cold later.Tiring and enticing at the same time. I remember meeting a babbler on the way. She accompanied me half a kilometre jolly well singing. I sang along.



As we turned our stride with the valley , each walking at its pace, the witty nature scheduled a meeting with ourselves. We met a different person that day. The sight of the bus was an indication that the trek was now officially over. The picturesque view on the way back made every note of music echo. We hummed along.

.. As my roommates walked in, reality struck. I was back in the room,The magical tour was over, but the spell wasn’t.
The silence that day conveyed that it was but for the strategy of this spell bounding snow dessert to have me stay back. The genie did exist, my wish was granted!
As we boarded our flight in bright daylight on the 1st of Feb, to return to the pandemonium of the metropolitan, mixed emotions bottled up. The journey mattered, not the destination 🌝



And if these souls didn’t accompany, the journey for sure would have been incomplete.  Leading Parag dada, Humble Ruta, and Joyous Mughdha, Smiling Shashi and Happy Rahul, Supportive Jyoti and Guruji –Sameer,Inspiring Vishu and Notorious Pranjal, Creative Brijesh and the one who because of whom I love travelling- the congenial Mario sir .

Untill Next time...

Julley

Wednesday, 12 October 2016

Take Away from Incy the Spider

Remember the story of Incy , the spider?

If you don't this should help-

Incy Wincy Spider
Climbed up the water spout
Down came the rain
and washed poor Incy Out
Out came the sunshine
and dried up all the rain
So Incy Wincy Spider
Climbed up the spout again

Be it the 90's or the 2000, ever wondered why a selected set of poem are always taught to toddlers?
Until I was lost over my cup of coffee, trying to sip in the unexpected October rains glancing through the square frame of my grill, Incy jumped out of my sub conscious into the realm.



It revealed to me that this simple nursery rhyme carried a lot of thought process with it. As toddlers, these were our first few words in Language and I believe that our ancestors had foresight to have these as one of the primitive poems of  our childhood.

May be they wanted to imbibe in us the value of never giving up., that no matter what the winds of tide do change,and that hope and patience will make every miracle possible

But you know what the struggling part is ? The gestation period from Rains to Sunshine.

It holds tremendous power to keep us from climbing that wall. It confuses, maddens and makes you cry. Nobody ever defined the time period where the power moved from the Rain God to the Sun God. Only if we had technology to do that! Sigh :(

However, what I could co-relate that day was that the cycles do change.

The rains made Incy, the spider stronger, wiser and ready- mentally as well as physically.

Imagine, had he succeeded in the first try, he might have been tarnished by his ego or ahm as they mention in the puranas, therby,blocking his further growth. Rains gave him his thoughts and Sunshine, the medium. Both played a pivotal role there.

The rhyme might have ended there.
The cycle did not and Hope certainly did not!
May this never ending notorious cycle give the Incy in each one of us the hope and will to go and....
Climb that Goddamn Wall....

'Don't you Quit...'

Sunday, 7 August 2016

Breaking through the glass ceiling

'Imagine you are walking on the street and nature suddenly decides to show all her might with heavy rain showers. Immediately you unzip your shoulder bag and take out that three fold umbrella you meticulously remembered to carry. You open the umbrella that is now a barrier between you and the rain drops. Volla! You independently saved yourself from getting wet!',  humored a old friend of mine over a phone conversation last night, trying to convey that I am a pure breed of feminist. (pun intended)

Honestly, till internet gauged over 50% of my time, I had absolutely no idea that the ideology my grandmother, my mother , my aunt have been propagating and following was a historical universal movement. Several years after the movement the diluted versions of this ideology came in which made the term more anti men than pro women.

It has never been a mandate for the women in my family to know basic culinary skills. It is only when they stood responsible for themselves, did they try their hands at cooking.

FYI :  I am still not allowed to enter the kitchen , not because of liberal reasons because right from my grandmother to my own mother staunchly believe that 'll do more damage than any good. Infact after tasting the food I volunteered to cook one odd day, my dad tried to convince my mother saying, 'Its okay darling, daughters in our family were never good at home skills, she'll learn it with time'.  Although the latter part of that sentence was a cover up for my mess.

Lets face it, as soon as the term feminism, liberal movement, freedom, equality, etc are coined we close the book,.Because, hey,  it is too much to grasp for in the already fast paced stress loaded lifestyle.

My colleagues at work literally had to tell me to stop going overboard after Hillary Clinton's nomination as the first female presidential candidate.I crazily followed the  headlines and since then my mind has been pondering over 1 simple question.

Who is stopping us? Men, society, orthodox cultures, government,lack of opportunities...???
May be, may be not! What is still  keeping us from breaking the glass ceiling after so many reforms?

Read this below :

' What an inappropriate dress, Such an attention seeker'
' Oh no doubt she's got a promotion, she is the Boss's favorite'
'Isn't that lipstick too loud?' 
'Women Rights activist,( Read : Feminist) so typical'
'Late night parties, Short dresses....suspicious'
'You cant cook, what will you do when you get married?'
'Don't you need to be home taking care of your kids?'
'You are too old to do that'

Ladies take a bow! One of the biggest factors that has still kept us struggling from breaking the glass ceiling is the lack of support from our female counterparts. Our crab mentality is perhaps the biggest hindrance to our growth till date.

Competition is healthy but pulling each other down is NOT.. and condemning the same bold actionable  you appreciated the prime time celebrity for , now also, executed by your female counterpart is utterly disgraceful.

Feminism is more about us before anything else. It is  about those collective mindsets day- in-day-out that play a vital role in shaping us.




Its about time we draw the maturity line and proactively support every Woman in our circle. Then be it about your 50 year old house-maker Mom's crazy startup idea or about embracing your friend who prioritized her career before her wedding, or the next door neighbor who quit her job to give her kids the parental care they required or simply about being that hearing aid your friend requires you to be,during her emotional turmoil.

You don't need a femi-nazi banner for all this.You don't need to carry the weight of complicated ideologies. It is the simple doings that often bring about changes.
By gone's are by gone's. Across storms and bad weathers we managed to sail perfectly, now that the winds are changing,  lets propel ahead together.

And guess what.. So many of us already do that.

Lets transition into a better tomorrow, and shatter right through that GLASS CEILING.




Time to blend in.. Happy Monday.










Saturday, 2 April 2016

Imperfect Perfections

I am a one of those complete social media freaks who checks  her phone every 15 minutes for facebook,snapchat,instagram updates. The other day as I rushed to office, like I always do I realized I forgot my cell phone at home. I had to reach office without scavenging facebook timelines, liking silly posts or worst I couldnt even listen to music. To top it, I gloriously forgot to carry a book too!

I figured why my father carried the daily newspaper when travelling to work. It kept him occupied during the dreaded journey from Andheri to Churchgate. My Goregaon located office is still a bliss! Those 30 minutes in the rickshaw turned out to be my me time. I decided to have conversations with myself and turns out, life without facebook isn't really that boring.

You must have surely come across those check lists on social media where they tell you how dreadful it is being in your early twenties or what you should do before you hit 30 or get married,etc.And we all read it and shared it, because hey,  it related to one fact or other in our to-achieve something race and we ended up linking to our daily pandemonium!

So is it really that bad? Two sides of the coin they say. There is that darker side with career confusions, job hunts, sudden responsibilities, bill payments,future plannings and what not..
 And then there is that other underrated or less talked about side.. the brighter one which  only talks about tricks and trips sadly, where infact there is so much to it....
The 20-40 gang is the right chemical mix of time, money and energy, and a concoction of these three leads to wonders,as the history has it!

It has the zeal and zest to learn new things, master them, pursue hobbies, travel, switch jobs, start a start-up, study,cut your hair short, break up/make up...
Doth the soul say..

Globalization I believe gave us way more advantages than it did to our parents. You can royally fail, because you have all the right too, have those heated conventional versus non conventional career discussions with your parents, and then meet your friends for a drink later to vent it all out just to know that we are all sailing on the same river, maybe on different boats.

So unlike Carrie Bradshaw's monologue in SATC, I do not meet my girlfriends over breakfast every day, or have dinner with them every Saturday, to discuss every cranky thing happening, but yes coming form the digital generation they know  the reason behind sudden 'I am so confused' or 'I love you so much' ( Its either post drinking or extra thinking symptoms)

Movies and Novels injected the perfect youth into me so much that I forgot that sometimes laughing when you fall down is a better choice than cheering to fake joy, that sometimes it is a wonderful stroke of luck when the needed is not served on your plate, maybe it is trying to teach you some patience.In the long run curve, as someone once told me , some may succeed early,some later but the summation of all the parameters always tallies. As they say, 'Waqt waqt ki baat hai'...

Perfections aren't myth, they are for real. They just didn't tell you that is a continuous process and the gestation period takes a bit too long at time..that as Marlyn Monroe put it 'Madness is genius and Imperfection is beauty'

So lets embrace the good, laugh it out, because after the last crystal of sand has fallen, the hour glass does turn upside down again... right?


Happy Sunday Folks :)